Passion is what makes a relationship thrive. It gives the spark, the fire to keep the juices of the relationship flowing. No matter what age we are, we want that spark, that fire. We want to feel alive. 

When years roll by, it may occur to us that the feeling is gone. But the good thing is, we can reignite the spark. People make a fire when they put wood, air, and a spark together. In the same way, if we assemble all the conditions for passion, we can restore it. 

1. Recognize the Components of Passion

There are several components if we want to rebuild our passion back. The first is intimacy. This means trust, friendship, and emotional closeness. This is when you feel that your partner is there for you and you for them. And you can tell them anything that is bothering you without being judged. It is not just formal communication, but deep heartfelt communication. 

Then comes the fun part. A relationship needs to feel playful. It might feel like a cage if you get too much into heavy stuff and responsibilities. So, your goal is to rekindle the playful elements of your relationship. You need this thrill, this excitement. You can consciously create this incredible atmosphere, so you can feel thrilled every time you see each other.

For passion, you need to rekindle the physical contact. The joy that comes from holding hands, kissing, touching, and making love. Many couples feel too exhausted by chores, work, kids, and responsibilities. They allow the joy to fall by the wayside. And this is the first sign that something is off. 

2. Remember What You Loved

The beginning of your relationship is full of emotions that can breathe life back into your union. It was a period of prosperity, creative presents, and bliss. You need to remember this energy and vibration and bring it back to your current situation.

The happiness you felt from sincere devotion. You were committed to fulfilling your partner’s needs. You did not think of yourself. All that mattered was making them happy. 

Maybe we lost this devotion and energy of giving with time, and more negative emotions have replaced them. If you want to rekindle the passion once again, this devotion is key. 

Remember exploring new and exciting things together can be a lot of fun. If you haven’t already, try exploring things like adult toys. This website has a good selection of them and you can even shop together for added intimacy.  

3. Remember your Commitment

When you have clarity that your relationship is worth saving, what can stop you? If you are sure this is the one you love, and you want to reignite the fires of your union, nothing should hold you back. Your goal is to make your loved one happy and get the passion into your relationship once again.

If you don’t have this eagerness or commitment, your relationship is dying. 

If you commit, you are determined to make things work. And you can get them to with open communication and consciously creating joy and happiness in the relationship.

Ask yourself what you have contributed to the relationship and if you are investing your time and energy into it. 

You can experiment with different things to make your partner happy and see what they like best. Don’t give up on the first try! 

4. Build your Оwn Еmotional Intelligence

If you have emotional intelligence, you have a complete mastery of your feelings and reactions. You have focus. You do not react impulsively, but consciously. You have inner clarity and focus, and it is easier to see what you want and achieve it.

Usually, you withdraw from your partner when there is an argument or a conflict; this diminishes passion in your union. You won’t stop until you condition your reactions and responses. If you become more aware of what you are doing and what emotions are pulling you, you will control the situation better.

5. Shift Your Perspective

If your passion for the person isn’t what it was, this doesn’t have to mean your relationship is over. This might be an opportunity, a test. Respond with a positive and constructive mindset. It is a stepping stone, not a tombstone. 

Lack of passion often leads to an inefficient way of handling conflict. Conflicts are bound to occur in any case. What matters is how we perceive them. Try to see things from your partner’s point of view. Show empathy. Do not insist on winning an argument. Let them win. 

You want to save your relationship, not win a battle. 

When the waters are calm, discuss the problem respectfully and with an open mind to find the best solution for both of you.

Always show how deeply you care for them and how much you love them.

6. How to Communicate Better

When it comes to communication, we often fail to grasp what our partner truly needs. Developing the skill to listen to your partner is vital in maintaining passion.

An essential part is how to communicate things to our partners. Some prefer having deep conversations. Others need a reassuring embrace. If you master your partner’s love language, you will know how to communicate in a style they understand and can easily accept.

7. Care Deeply for Your Partner’s Needs

We all have some human needs—the need to be safe, in a place free of pain. Commit to creating an environment where your partner feels loved unconditionally protected.

But apart from this, we also need some uncertainty; this means variety and surprise. You can inject passion into your relationship with little things. It’s the little things that fulfil the need to feel special, wanted, and needed. We can think of creative ways of showing our partners how important they are to us. 

8. Grow Together, Stay Together

If we commit to growing together, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually, we can be sure we can stay together. If we are not committed to developing together, our relationship is undoubtedly dying. 

9. Plan for Passion to Work

When you and your partner first met, you were drawn into a vortex of passion. It happened spontaneously. If you want passion to last, you need to plan for passion to happen. Invite your partner to a date night. Book a special hotel. Create a sexy atmosphere. Explore new ways to be intimate.  

10. Get Help

If you are still struggling with reigniting your passion, there are couples’ therapists who specialize in reigniting passion!  You can read books or attend online and offline coaching sessions together. This exploration into the depths of passion will lead you to new unexplored territories.